The Why


Posted on August 18th, by Amy in Uncategorized. 30 comments

Hi friends!

I’ve shared some of the why, but thought it warranted anther post.

My passion and desire is to help others learn to quilt and create.  Just in the last few weeks a few of you quilting with me have mentioned that you no longer cringe when half-square-triangles are mentioned, or how proud you are of yourself and your beautiful blocks!  THAT is so exciting to me!!  Doesn’t it feel good to make something and be proud of what you did?  And then being able to post about it and have friends leave feedback too – fun times!

But why?  Having this/any creative outlet is so important for anyone!  Having the ability and time to do something that is for me alone (not the laundry, dishes, floors – that will all be UNDONE 5 minutes later) is very satisfying.  And now at this point in time, I cannot imagine not having that time for myself.  I was unfulfilled before.  ”mom” is often a thankless job, and if that’s my only job – well, it’s hard to find fulfillment.  Would you agree?

And so – I really, truly, want to encourage anyone, everyone to find their own way to finding some fulfillment!  And it doesn’t have to be quilting – we are all different and unique, living by God’s grace each day.  Your family may not understand this need to sew, paint, garden, cook, or whatever else, but they will notice the happier, more confident you.

And so - with each tutorial and pattern that I write, I do my best to give clear, concise directions that will empower you to step up and take some time back for yourself.  Just  an hour here and there – it’s not like you need eight hours – just enough to press and cut some fabric, or zip through a pile of pieces that you pinned the night before.  I haven’t touched my sewing machine since I put it away on Sunday – it’s calling to me.  ”Make something Amy!  You will never know if that bag works, unless you try!”  Getting started is always they hardest part for me, I just need to cut out what I have in mind.

I love my kids with ALL of my heart, and I am passionate about raising healthy, happy and loved children, who are respectful and loving in turn.  But they don’t need me every hour of the day!  Teaching them to entertain themselves is part of a well adjusted child – sometimes we even have to let go a little in order for that to happen.  They know that they are #1 in my book, no matter what else I am doing, I will come to their aid; an ouchie, snack, or to settle an argument – they always come first.  Owen still sits on my lap while checking email, writing a post, or “helping” me sew – he’s curious about what I’m doing and just wants to spend a little time snuggling.  I love it!

You’re turn – What are you passionate about?  Do you have anything that is just for you in your life?

I’d love to know!
Amy




30 thoughts on “The Why

  1. Amy… I love this post. I could not describe how I feel about my sewing and creating as eloquently as you so. This is the EXACT reason I started my blog…. so I could share….design…inspire and create. First and foremost I wanted to share. I wanted to share my creativity and help others in the process. You are right, sometimes being a mom is thankless, but I think my kids appreciate me more since I have started blogging. Thanks for sharing Amy. It is appreciated by people like me!!!!

  2. An interesting post.
    My own passion is for making things. I explore using as many techniques as I can in whatever I am making at the time. Many of these have been shared over the years with my lovely daughters.
    They have both grown up now and live away from home, but are frequently in touch. Both daughters have inherited my older sewing machines. My younger daughter is the creative one, making her own items to her own design, for sale. She also likes to alter her own clothing. My elder daughter has been learning to hem curtains on her sewing machine. She is intent on making things for her new home.
    Both have quilts which I have made for them. My elder daughter asking for a “green” quilt for herself and her partner. This was given to them when they visited for the New Year. I have just finished a quilt for my younger daughter and will soon start one requested by my mum.

  3. You’re so right, and I try to remember this every day. We SAHM’s as individuals need to explore our own possibilities while we encourage our families to learn and do the same. While, yes raising a few young children can often feel thankless while cleaning up the same clothes and messes from the day before – those times when they say thanks, or I love you make it all worthwhile. My son is now 17, and staying with him was the best decision I ever made. Right up with that though is sewing, gardening, cooking, creating and TENNIS!! They are my personal passions.

  4. I love this post, Amy! You are so right about the thrill of teaching others – I love taking someone from “I can’t quilt!” to “Look at what I did!” And taking time for yourself is so important – and will teach your kids to do the same. Creative people seem to be happier, and IMHO, a little smarter! As I watch my 2 1/2 y.o. granddaughter grow up, I am amazed at her imagination – she takes my fabric scraps, thread, buttons, actually any paraphernalia she can get her hands on, and makes quilts, food, beaches, clothing, stores – she loves to create and I try to play along to encourage that. Soon I’ll get out the clay for my potter’s wheel and see what she can do there!

  5. Amy : thanks to you , I am one of the newbies that doesn’t cringe at the HST’s !! They take a little time , but turn out great ! you’ve taken me from I can’t do it , to what can I do next ? I’m a little backed up now ; since I’ve finally discovered I CAN DO IT !!! , now my project blankets and gowns for charities have not gotten any attention ………. You young mothers with kids and blogs and everything else going on in your busy life have pushed me from “oh , I’d like to make quilts , but ……..” to “I can do it !” AND it’s so easy to come to the computer if you have troubles . I’ve had some quilting books for years , but they have been on the shelf ! So , my passion right now is quilts for Christmas gifts for 5 people that are close to me !!!!! ( and I need to get back to some sewing for charities ! ) thanks again for YOUR inspiration … today’s to-do list : square up my quilt along blocks and sash them ! how EXCITING !! ( and I’ll need to do some household chores …………. )

  6. I love this post! It sounds like it came straight out of one of the Boundaries books (http://www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_sb_noss?url=search-alias%3Daps&field-keywords=boundaries&ih=2_5_3_0_0_0_0_0_0_1.68_27&fsc=-1).

    Taking time for yourself is so important! I’m still trying to find that balance. I have a 3-mo-old & 2-yr-old, so they’re fairly demanding of my time & energy right now. Add that to a husband who works a lot & occasionally travels & a major kitchen renovation (& the displacement of everything that comes with that), I don’t have much time or space for quilting right now. I’m doing a little at a time, but it has to be something I can put right back away.

    My passions are my family, quilting & wedding planning! Wedding planning is a job/hobby/passion & provides me with the best of both worlds as far as being a SAHM and staying in the business world as a business owner. It’s a very flexible job that I can work as much or as little as I want.

    So……maybe as my kids get a little older I will have more time & space for quilting so I can do it as much as you guys do!

  7. I’m so thankful I got involved in this quiltalong because I really learned some valuable tips. I have finally mastered trimming half square triangles! I can’t wait to get my last two squares done so I can get working on the sashing and see if I can get that figured out. I’ve always wondered how to do sashing with squares in the corners.

    I actually did a blog post a while ago on why I love to make things that sums up my feelings.
    http://baileygirl5.blogspot.com/2010/04/why-i-quilt-embroider-sew-crochet-etc.html

    Thanks Amy for helping me grow as a quilter!

  8. Hi Amy,

    You put my feelings about blogging and quilting into your words – it often amazes me how quilters seem to ‘think alike’.

    While being a mom often FEELS like there is no ‘fulfillment’ at the time you are applying all those get well kisses, lullabyes, and story times – they add up! My kids are grown and gone over 10 years now. When they were teens, I couldn’t wait to transform their rooms into ‘my space’ but oh how I miss them!

    Yesterday, my daughter called me from my favorite (out of town) fabric store – asked me what color fabric she should buy for me (found out later it was with her last $6) – that’s fulfullment!

    My younger son, who is a programmer, is best buds with the son of a very well known quilt designer – THAT’s fulfillment!

    It’s a long time coming sometimes, but being a mom really does pay off – just not always how we expect it to!

    Prepare for the unexpected.

  9. Great post! I completely agree with helping others feel good and how it makes you feel good. I feel so enriched by the crafting community and how so many are open to sharing their knowledge and aren’t just after a dollar. Your great tutorials have inspired me to keep learning, as I’m a new quilter who lives in a non-quilty community. My online world is my sewing world and I rely on kind people like you to help me progress in my skills.

    Thanks for all you do! :)

  10. Sorry for putting this under the wrong post the first time!

    I completely get what you are saying. I found sewing about 2 years ago. It is truly the only thing in this crazy (i wouldn’t have it any other way) life that is mine. It is my therapy and I don’t know what I would do without it. I also really enjoy reading a handful of blogs (yours being 1 of them!). You give me inspiration and encouragement. You have a lovely family and I am thankful that you share so much of your life with us. Have a happy day!

  11. This was such a great post. I have been through so many creative “phases” but quilting is no longer considered a phase by my husband–he knows it is my passion. It has carried me through some very difficult times. Sometimes even when I don’t have the time to sit down and sew, just touching the fabric and dreaming is all I need. Thanks for all your help and inspiration. Your kids will appreciate your passion for quilting, knowing that you took care of yourself while also taking care of them.

  12. I could not have said it any better. The satisfaction of completing a project cannot be put into words. Following your sampler quilt was the first for me, but looked forward every Monday for the new blocks.

  13. I do love the feeling of having a finished item that comes from quilting and sewing. Something that’s not going to be undone or have to be redone again. I love the feeling when one of my kids or someone else loves something I make–like my toddler wanting me to make shirts for him because he loves the cute fabrics. I love learning new things–in any part of my life. That’s where I find energy.

    Your post was a bit hard to read in certain ways, though. My 9 year old is severely autistic, and he needs to be watched constantly. I love him to pieces, but it’s hard sometimes and the hardest thing is the lack of feedback and fulfillment of parenting him. He needs constant supervision yet he only wants to interact a little bit of the time. And he is non-verbal, and I miss those sweet “I love yous” like I get from my toddler and even very rarely from my 13 year old son. My middle son’s progress and learning is so very slow. And I realize as I’m typing this–it’s very much like the progress I make in my sewing—so very slow!

    My sewing time is my just me time, and I feel like it’s indulgent because it so often comes before things like cleaning my house. I’d say I am a passionate learner of new things, and sewing is a good arena for that!

  14. Great post Amy! When you posted before about how it can’t be UNDONE, it really hit home with me. My husband sometimes thinks I’m crazy for cutting up fabric, just to sew it back together. But he only teases me about it in a loving way. He loves that it makes me happy to quilt. Honestly though, my favorite parts of quilting is gifting it, or snuggling up my kids in a quilt I made. The process is still long and sometimes hard for me, but the payoff it worth it.

    Another thing I do just for me is a small side business. I sell Scentsy, and I just love it! I have always loved going to home parties (think Tupperware), and now I get to do them and make a little money…although all my profits go right back into products for myself. I wouldn’t have the extra money to spend buying all the things I love if I didn’t do this. It’s a great way to meet up with friends and keep in touch with myself as an individual, not just wife, mom, worker.

  15. Thanks for the great post Amy! I am passionate about pretty much anything that I do in life, especially crafting. Doesn’t really matter what kind of crafting it is whether it is quilting, knitting, spinning, cardmaking or scrapbooking.

    Before we bought the restaurant and moved away to a different city, I used to teach people how to make cards and scrapbook. It was so rewarding to have people say that they loved learning things from me, and that I was a great teacher. It was especially rewarding when I was featured in a card making magazine. I loved the feeling of being published! I have been published now 3 times, twice for my photography and once for my cards. and who knows maybe one day for quilting, or knitting.

    I agree that you have to take time for yourself. I have to everyday otherwise i go crazy! Even if its 5 minutes while I sit in a booth at my restaurant to knit, or come home in the afternoon to quilt, or even get up a little early to blog or something else.

  16. I love this photo of you and Joe! You both look great! I love your openness. Thanks for sharing. I definately use my sewing and other crafty thing to keep my sanity. They are definately things I do to have my own thing! I love sharing them with others at the same time love the fact that they are my projects! I guess that my selfish streak coming out.
    I started my blog to share my projects easier with friends and hope to connect with others. My blog is going slow but i’m still having fun with it most of the time. I truely enjoy checking out everyone elses blogs.

  17. I love this post, Amy, and totally agree with you. I have been discovering new hobbies this past year, only after allowing myself to have the freedom to explore them, without feeling guilty. You are right, it makes for a better mother! The past few months I have really gotten into decorating our home, by reading other blogs for ideas. I’ve been re-painting furniture, rescuing old pieces of wood and re-doing them, and just trying to be more creative around the house. It doesn’t happen all the time, but when it does, it is so fun. And you are right; it is so nice to have actually accomplished something!

  18. I am so like you when it comes to quilting. It is almost a compulsion, a need I need to keep my soul going. Writing, again, is also growing in my heart. I am finally embracing my creative nature and it is doing me, and my family, wonders.

  19. Passion for sewing has fueled my entire life…from a small child to present. I really should say Passion for the arts. As a child singing and playing the saxaphone as well as hand stitching, embroidery and painting filled my hours. The sewing has brought in much needed funds from time to time; however, I was sewing everyday anyway, may as well make some money…lol. Last October I was in the hospital for a week following gallbladder surgery and hubby asked if he could bring me something to occupy my time. Well, I assembled two 33 inch dolls; painted their faces and designed their wardrobe and also did a bit of ribbon embroidery. Passion! It drives me. My children have grown into independant, dependable, happy, and well adjusted young people. They excel in their studies and have passions of their own. One is an artist-drawing and plays the violin; another is a writer and plays the drums;and the other plays the guitar and writes short stories. Each of them were allowed the space to figure out who they are. Somehow a great balance was obtained in this household (by some miracle)! What I really like about my kids is that we all acknowledge each other’s passion and the space needed. I asked the kids a few minutes ago if they ever felt lonely or left-out because I was sewing and all three agreed that they remember sitting on my lap at the sewing machine or me giving them fabric to cut with their little scissors. We used to sit and paint together! Thanks Amy for your intuitive look inside our lives as it relates to art. I realize that our lives all revolve around art in some form or more than one form. You may have noticed that not once did I mention my darling hubby. He seems not to appreciate the arts. Music is not played where he is…he likes the TV, PS games…Art – not so much. His lack of interest in any art form has been or has created tension and arguments from time to time. He has always been the odd one out-the children always congregate around me. He seems not to appreciate my quilts…he doesn’t like my color choices or any number of reasons one would not like dolls; purses, clothing, etc! Over the years he appreciated the money that I’ve made in my pursuits.
    My Passion means more than monetary wealth, rather it is an expression of who I am and my mood at any given time! Passion! Gotta love it!

  20. Beautiful post, Amy. I love the photo of you and your husband.

    I didn’t sew on Monday and I was bummed! We were crazy busy with last minute school preparations. :)

    I love sewing and have for almost my whole life. :)
    I can remember in college thinking: when I’m married and have kids, I’ll be able to spend time sewing. I have that time now and I’m really enjoying it. :)

  21. Your words are perfect!! I too need something in life for me that is not associated with being “in relationship to another” but uniquely my own energy and spirit. That is why I love stitching, quilting and working with my hands. I feel more spiritually connected when I’m honoring what I enjoy doing. Yes, those that I love bring tremendous joy and purpose to my life….however I also find that when nurturing my soul and desires to create, I am more present at other times when engaging with others.

    Thanks for the excellent post. Thank you for sharing all of your gifts with all of us…..it is always a pleasure to read your posts.

    Smiles,
    Kelly

  22. This was a great posting today, Amy!!! I, too, love to share my experience with other women anxious to learn about quilting. I live abroad most of the year and finding something to do to keep busy is a must! We “expats” have a wonderful time getting together…sewing a bit and just supporting each other. Love your blog!

  23. I feel a lot the same way you do. Even down to the getting started being the hardest part. Once I do that, it’s on! I want to help encourage others too. Making the world a better place, one sewer at a time. :0)

    You are doing a great job, by the way!

  24. I had been back to work only 9 days when I got sick. It felt like the flu. After months of not know what was happening to me, what seemed like gallons of blood work, all kinds of test, I found out finally I had Still’s Disease. A rare form of RA. My kids where 3, 4 and 6. What was a going to do? I cried all the time, the pain in my body was unbelievable, the fevers and chills were horrible. After years of being on many medications I am doing ok. Pain is still a big part of my life. But I can walk and be with my family. I taught myself to sew about 18 years ago. I have made close for my kids over the years. My passion now is quilting. I LOVE IT!! I can’t tell you how much it makes my heart soar! I am not bound to the earth when I am creating and going through the steps it takes to get to the end of a wonderful quilt. I have started a little quilt group in the town that I live to connect with other women like myself. Thank you Amy for this question. My passion is my Faith, my family, and my quilting!

  25. I loved this post. It takes me back…
    to sewing while my kids played around me. Usually with some neighbour kids thrown in the mix. People would say, ” I can’t sew I have kids around me” Well, I always did and my kids learned respect to what I do and had the coolest clothes and doll clothes in town.
    All my kids learned to sew – two boys and one girl. Now my 19 year old daughter has made her own grad dress in grade 8 and her own quilt for college. This summer while home and working full time she has made a quilt top for a wedding present for a good friend (the wedding isn’t until next year), a beautiful quilted purse for another friend and she is working on one for herself.

    I could go on forever. Sewing has kept me sane. From piecing while my best friend was dying at the hospice to managing to get through some really rough times with my family as well.

    You go girl.

    Jo

    PS Just found your blog and I like the set up.

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